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    Is Adoption A Form of Russian Roulette?

            In 2014 adopting a child who needs a safe-haven is glorified but does physical safety guarantee mental safety?  I would say not.  As an individual who was adopted as a child as a means of providing me with security I can honestly say adoption could possibly make things worse. 

             In the 1980’s being legally claimed as another person’s child always left people questioning why myself and my siblings didn’t fit in.  We used to make up stories to tell others if they happened to ask us why we did not all share the same resemblances.  “Uhhhhhh… our mom and dad look really old because they had us at older ages”, or “two of us are the same age and not twins because our dad cheated on our mom”, we’d say.  Bottom line is we felt the need to hide our fosterage because we had been conditioned to believe it was a huge negative for us.  We felt this way because the neighborhood kids used to remind us every time we stepped out the front door by heckling us with songs.  Family members used to refer to us as “my sister’s foster kids” long after we were made permanent members of the family. 

            So I’m adopted, that means I have double the amount of family, right?  Wrong.  What happens when neither of those families stays involved in your life?  Are you un-adopted?  Adoption means acceptance, enactment, and ratification. Say you lose your job, you need a shoulder to cry on and you have no one to depend upon. Are you still adopted at that point?  What if you have no family members there for the birth of your child? Is your adoption then placed on hold? 

            Children who are adopted are at risk of being re-relinquished and left to then become abandoned adults.  Abandonment is the opposite of adoption and means deserted, discarded, eliminated, cast aside, and dissipated.  So is adoption still a glorified occurrence?  It is if the family that takes you permanently is ready for the commitment otherwise it leaves a person with access to no family at all, biological or not. 

Thoughts?

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    Seejay says (Jun 17, 2014):

    Hey deena' I have never been adopted but i to sometimes feel abandoned, because i don't have a tight relationship with my family. Do u think that everything that happened to u was for some strange reason to make u stronger, so that u can relate to the other people that u are trying to help? How do u have the strength to deal with everything that u been though?

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    Lisa says (Jun 18, 2014):

    Very interesting

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    Barbara Gray says (Jul 2, 2014):

    Adoption for me has always left me feeling alone & empty, u don' t get close because at anytime u can b reminded that you are ADOPTED! In the end I feel like I don't know who I am

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    Lisa says (Jun 18, 2014):

    Very interesting

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    Seejay says (Jun 17, 2014):

    Hey deena' I have never been adopted but i to sometimes feel abandoned, because i don't have a tight relationship with my family. Do u think that everything that happened to u was for some strange reason to make u stronger, so that u can relate to the other people that u are trying to help? How do u have the strength to deal with everything that u been though?

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